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Thursday, May 15, 2008

MotherStyle

So I lied...I am taking a break from all the packing and came across this on another mom's blog. We have studied Carl Jung frequently in education and I find it all fascinating. Go to this website and take the very short quiz to find out your mothering style. Then come back to my page and vote on the poll for which mothering style you are. It will be fun to see the variety.


www.motherstyles.com


Here is what I got. While I see myself in most of the mothering styles I think this describes me fairly well. I can switch between "I" and "E" depending on my mood.


INFP - The “Tuned In” Mother
(Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Perceiving)

“Inside our children, I believe, is a truth that tells them what’s best for them. I am always listening for that truth.”

  • Aware, astute, and understanding, the INFP mother is sensitive to her child’s needs, feelings, and perceptions. By observing and listening to the cues of the whole child, she is “tuned in” and naturally develops an intuitive feel for what he or she needs. Responsive and helpful as well, she tends patiently to those needs as they arise.
  • The INFP mother is comfortable letting her children follow their own course of development and make their own choices. She offers encouragement and uses her insights to head off trouble and difficult issues.
  • The INFP mother takes vicarious pleasure giving her children good experiences and watching them enjoy childhood. She’s happiest creating pleasant, memorable times for the whole family.

12 comments:

Cheri said...

INFP if for me, I guess. I had a hard time answering the questions, I was half and half on some.

julie said...

Yeah, I think I could have gone either way on just about every question. So who knows.

Emily said...

ISTP for me. I didn't feel like it really fit me though. There were only a few questions I was like- that is definately not me.

K said...

Your type is: entp —The “Independence” Mother

“When I held my babies, I always faced them outward so they could take in the world.”

The ENTP mother encourages her children—as a role model and as a teacher—to be independent and confident on their own in the world. The ENTP wants her children to evaluate their choices and learn from the consequences of their own decisions.

I feel like this is pretty close. I am big on independence and helping my kids feel capable.

millerandbrandi said...

Your type is: esfp —The “Totally There” Mother

Energetic and people-oriented, the ESFP mother lives in the moment, “totally there” for her children — totally focused on them when she is with them. She enjoys being with her children and can respond to their needs “on the spot,” ensuring that they feel loved and cared for.
Fun-loving, friendly, and outgoing, the ESFP mother actively engages her children in a wide variety of experiences. They can count on her to strike up a conversation with a fellow shopper at the market or with the bus driver, introducing them to the joys of people everywhere.
Devoted and practical, the ESFP mother also enjoys doing for her children. She is attentive to their feelings and is deeply touched by every joy or hurt they experience.

I actually feel like is totally me...what do you think???

Matt and Brandi said...

Your type is: esfp —The “Totally There” Mother

Energetic and people-oriented, the ESFP mother lives in the moment, “totally there” for her children — totally focused on them when she is with them. She enjoys being with her children and can respond to their needs “on the spot,” ensuring that they feel loved and cared for.
Fun-loving, friendly, and outgoing, the ESFP mother actively engages her children in a wide variety of experiences. They can count on her to strike up a conversation with a fellow shopper at the market or with the bus driver, introducing them to the joys of people everywhere.
Devoted and practical, the ESFP mother also enjoys doing for her children. She is attentive to their feelings and is deeply touched by every joy or hurt they experience.

Lara said...

Me- ENFP, definately. Thanks for sharing- i put it on my last post, too, cause I thought it was so interesting!

Kristin, Jeff, and Michael said...

ENFP Mother for me.

Lisa said...

I forgot to post my results here, but I'm an INFP mother. I think it's pretty accurate, but I'm wondering if mothering styles change over time. I was a very different parent with only one child than I am with two, and things have changed a lot as my kids have grown older. What do you think?

The Van Noys said...

I would totally agree Lisa. things definitely change. I know so many mothers who are completely different with their first baby...and then as more come along things are tweaked and teased with the demands of life. So definitely. I will be interested to test myself after #2 comes along and see if I am the same or have changed completely.

Bradbury Trio said...

I'm the Heart to Heart Mother (I think ENFJ? I can't remember the letters. But it was cool how it really did describe me! This was fun!

Carrie said...

Your type is: enfj —The “Heart-to-Heart” Mother

“We have so many good talks, I think I understand my children better than they understand themselves.”


Expressive and warm, the ENFJ mother is adept at talking about personal concerns, both her children’s and her own. She is likely to initiate heart-to-heart talks frequently and provide her children with an open forum for articulating their feelings and perspectives.
Tuned in to each child as a unique person, the ENFJ mother nurtures her children through affirmation, praise, and encouragement. She takes great pleasure when they reciprocate, offering admiration and encouragement of her, a sibling, or a friend.
Organized and energetic, the ENFJ mother is a competent, efficient family manager. She is involved in her children’s lives, providing structure, direction, and guidance.
The ENFJ mother is also socially adept, relating well to people wherever she goes. She strives to keep her children connected to family, neighborhood, and the larger community.