First, Congratulations to me on making my 50th post!! Woohooo!!
A moment ago Julie informed me, via MSN Messenger,that my last post could have been offensive to the "Marthas" out there. Well good. Haha...no my intent was not to offend. Julie thought she fell under the category of "Martha" and thought I was secretly talking about her. Oh Julie! Now when I say "Martha" here is what I mean:
*A woman, particularly a fellow mother, who looks as if she has it together 100% of the time, but secretly is stealing lots of money or lacing her cupcakes with trans fatty acids. Basically, a person who will always paint a pretty picture, when in fact she could use a good friend talk to.
*A "Martha" is a person who deems themselves the almighty expert at such thing as parenting and marriage. Then proceeds to give out her wisdom anywhere and everywhere as she sees fit. She will not hesitate to make snide remarks about the job you are doing as a parent or wife. Most of the time the comments will not be outright and frank(though at times they will)...but she will more casually throw them out there so it is not until usually later when you realized you have been attacked.
*She seems to think her remarks will "inspire" the receiver to shape up and do things right, therefore ridding the world of the "undesirables". She becomes extremely dismayed when she finds out her children display much of the undesirable behavior she so earnestly seeks out to destroy in others, but tries with all her might to hide it rather than seeking advice or resources. (Because in the end we are all much more alike than different...gasp!)
Okay...anyways I could go on...but my point was not that I let my child eat candy and watch TV all day and that people should just leave me alone about it. Because the fact is I do not like Carter to eat candy, I would much rather he have nutritious foods and I do not let him just watch anything...but I really don't mind when he wants to watch a kids show. My point was is that everyone should LIVE AND LET LIVE...my point was to the "radicals" who have all these rules (which I am not against the rules...rules are good!)... BUT they try to make you feel bad, inferior, and inadequate if you do not follow their same regiment! All the things I listed, breastfeeding, cloth diapers, organic foods...and so on are very good things...that is not what I am against...I am just turned off by "Moms Against Moms" and believe mothers should ban together to offer friendship, "helpful" advice, and resources to each other rather than negative criticisms and snootiness. Rather than judge a mom for giving her child say "cotton candy" for a snack;)...tell her how your child got a kick out of making these cute little "apple critters" for a fun snack and ask her if she wants to come over and make them with you! See how easy that is!! Most of the time there is a lack of education and resources that cause parents to do less than desirable things...and if we all just had friendly, helpful suggestions, and presented them in a tactful, creative manner we would all be much better off. It is not about conforming people to your routine...but bettering yourself and your family by learning from others. It is a give and take. Take from other mothers the ideas you like and use them for yourself and give of yourself and your time and talents so that others can benefit from you. That was my point. I was not trying to offend anybody or put anybody down...I was just saying!!